Family: Question: Are you nicer to other people, than you are to your immediate family? I can tell you that my family is..?
Question: Are you nicer to other people, than you are to your immediate family? I can tell you that my family is..? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 02:02 PM PDT Not sure how this happened, I m 33 year old female, my sister is 36 and I just feel like she treats me like crap. It s to the point where I don t even want to get together with my mom and my sister to go places, because she just ends up talking to my mom–not to to me at all..for ex. yesterday we went out to lunch, and when my mom left the table to go to the rest room, I tried to ask my sister about her trip to London to make conversation, and she just answered the question with a yes or no response and pretended she was busy on her phone…isn t this so rude? The worst part of it, is that she doesn’t come across this way to other people. She’s completely kind and friendly to them..I don’t even see her very her often, why can’t she just pull it together and be polite? Question: Why do they always push the good men away? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 01:24 PM PDT I know people is gonna say to leave her but I’m just trying get a explanation mostly from women on why you always push us men away when we are always trying to be there for you when it’s the bad times. But when we decide not to show it to them they call us selfish and say we don’t care about them. The reason I ask this is because Im trying to be there for her because she has been through a lot this year with her family, example she lost her mother at a young age, lost her father last year after thanksgiving, and now she just lost an uncle a week ago. But the real reason behind why she acts like this is because what happened to her in high school, horrible things happened which made her leave her hometown for a while and become so stubborn and selfish when she came back. Question: How do I get my brother to take responsibility? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 01:11 PM PDT Whenever he accidentally does something he acts like he shouldn’t help fix it or say sorry because it was an accident. Like the other day he spilled an entire gallon of milk and ran off onto the couch while I was trying to clean it (he’s 13 btw). He only helped after my mom yelled at him twice and after throwing a fit saying he didn’t mean too. If he knocks over something, breaks something, or does anything negative on accident he never says sorry. If I go ” Brother, you just did (blank)!” He’ll scream it was an accident and run off. How do I explain that you have to take responsibility and apologize for things you’ve done that negatively impacted others, even non-purposefully. My parents have been trying to get him to realize this too to no great luck. Question: Was my mom teasing me? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 12:39 PM PDT I was upstairs in my bedroom watching TV when my step mother yelled “Lets go so we will not be late”. Trying to stall for time, I said “I’m coming”. She said “Don’t get it on the sheets. That makes them sticky. Oh My God, she thought I was j – -king off. I did not know she knew I did that. She has a wonderful sense of humor so I hope she was joking. I love and adore her. She is the best mom any guy can have. Does that mean she is OK with it and I don’t have to hide from her when I do it in the future? Do I have a cool mom or what? I did not know women knew guys did this. Do all women know about it? Question: My uncle wants to get with my mom, what should I do? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 12:20 PM PDT My uncle (my mom’s sister’s husband) flirts with my mom nonstop after the past couple of years, and most likely when I was younger (I’m 16) and recently, my aunt was diagnosed with cancer. My uncle is convinced that she will not live, and has flat out said that he wants to move in with my mom. My aunt knows that she has been cheated on before by him, and knows about the fling between the two but has no willpower to stop it. My mom does not want the relationship at all! But, she has a hard time saying no and denying, and she can lead my uncle on. I don’t have any clue on what to do. Keep in mind that I do not want to stand up to my uncle, but if I have to then I will, but I’m looking for other solutions. Question: My mom keeps trying to call me and is not respecting me still even though I desperatly moved out to get away from her? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 12:01 PM PDT I don’t want anything from her, and she only brings drana into my life, and makes me feel bad about myseld, or confused, and like a scared clueless child like her sister does too. I am happier and better off, and shes manipulating me with bait like things I might need, yet was never there for me when I really needed them. Question: What should I do about my sister? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 11:35 AM PDT I’m really worried about my sister, she’s been jobless and she’s always broke. Well the other day I brought her fast-food at some guys office place and she’s hanging out with really thuggish looking guys. I’m pretty sure these guys are shady and she worries me because she thinks money is so important and she tries getting involved. Like the other day this guy brought boxes of bullets and was sorting them and she asked if she could have a few boxes to sell on her eBay. eBay! The guy told her no, but although I really don’t know if they’re shady or not I really worry about her going to prison for something. I don’t know what to do, she doesn’t listen to me and she gets mad when I give her advice because she thinks I look down on her. Please give me some advice on what I should do in this situation. Question: I am 35 my parents own my life because I am diasabled and make bad choice I want freedom? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 06:50 AM PDT But they own my car I use for my part time job . I am able to take care myself Question: What do I do? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 06:42 AM PDT So I met a friend online, and was close to him in the area. I lied to my dad saying im meeting a friend from school, and went through with it. He dropped me off where he was. A few hours later, He then met his dad, and learned everything. My mom and dad are in complete shock that I would do such a thing, and deep down inside I knew this was a bad idea. I have so much guilt it makes me feel sick. My mom was crying saying how this could have gotten me killed because of how random this was and how i took advantage of my parents. I am also with my dad on a trip, and need to go through this with him for another 3 days. I feel so much immense guilt and sorrow I think I might throw up and I honestly wish i could just curl up in a ball and die. How do I deal with this? Question: I’m joining the Marines in a few weeks, but my mom and sister are SCARED for me. Help? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 06:29 AM PDT I’m an 18-year-old guy who just graduated from high school and I’m shipping out to boot camp (Parris Island) from Virginia real soon. I have everything in order and it’s a done deal, but my mom and older sister just won’t accept it. We’ve always been a trio and extremely close, never being separated from one another, and we’re always there for each other. My mom and sister are complete wrecks and have been crying hysterically for days, especially my mom. They DID NOT want me to even join in the first place. We had huge blowout fights about it many times but eventually told me to “Do whatever” without supporting me. They said they refused to support me doing something that I could “potentially die from”. So now that I’m leaving they keep begging me to revoke my enlistment, they’re pleading with me, but I don’t want to, I need to follow my dream and goals. I’m making a big mistake, according to them. They keep saying I’m going to die, be mistreated, or come back severely injured. How can I convince them that I’ll be FINE? I’m going to miss them so much but I know I’ll get through it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you Question: Why do fat people believe that thin people starve themselves? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 03:46 AM PDT We don’t! We just don’t glutton ourselves. When I stayed with my morbidly obese auntie I remember her looking at me in shock after seeing me eat a plate of pasta with grilled fish. I told her of course I eat, if I really was serving myself for weeks on end then do you really think I’d be up and about? I wouldn’t be able to function or even get out of bed. Question: Someone ate my food and I don’t know who it is.? Posted: 10 Jun 2018 12:58 AM PDT My mom bought some gummy bears for me because I wanted more, but someone ended up eating them…I’m really angry and I felt like I had to cry. I didn’t actually cry, but it felt like it. I was planning to eat it later, but a few hours ago, someone ate all of them. I left them beside my mom, but someone decided to eat it. I know what you’re gonna say, “You must be stupid to leave it out for a few hours.” I WAS PLANNING TO EAT IT, BUT WHEN I GOT OFF THE COMPUTER. IT WAS GONE! I’m really mad right now. Question: How do I become consistently honest with my parents? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 11:04 PM PDT Long story short, I lie to my parents on the daily. And I do not know how to stop, or even refrain from it. Here’s the example: Driving. (I have my learners permit, but not my license) My parents told my family that they would be spending the night at a friend’s house, and they left around 8:45pm. I called my friend, let’s call her Tiffany, and we decided we were gonna hang out. I drove to her house around 9:20, and we started playing guitar and stuff. But then, of course, my dad texts me “We did not go to __’s house. We are at home, and for some reason, you and our van are missing.” Of course I freaked out, grabbed the keys, and drove home. While driving, I had to buy some oil, giving me a 10 minute setback (packed gas station), and there was also a dispersion of a parade. I got home super late (the drive was supposed to be 18 minutes, but instead my mortified drive home became 42 minutes), and am currently writing this on my bed… :/ I am incredibly sorry for what I have done to my parents (I also have a reputation for being caught driving without a parent in the vehicle). My childhood was filled with ‘4.0 GPA’ & ‘Perfect Child’ labels, but now I’m starting to decline in my parents’ eyes. I was taught that perfection is more important than any other aspect in life, and they eventually pushed me into a mold, forcing me to tell lies to be accepted by them. How do I explain that I can’t be perfect… and so on? Question: My grandfather past away and he wanted me to visit him but i never did and know i feel very bad? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 10:07 PM PDT my grandafther lived overseas. i was there a few times as a kid. my grandfather really liked me. but after i started going to highschool and eventually got a part-time job and then i never visted again. later my grandpa was having heakth issues where he would keep getting pneumonia and stuff. but i just found out today he has past away. my father visted him last year but i never did. i havent seen him in over 5 years. he really wanted to see me he even asked my father for me to visit. and i wanted to go this year as soon as i can get some vacation from my part-time job. but know its too late. i am really regretful and sad right know? Question: Is my dad a functioning alcoholic? If so, does it really matter? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 09:35 PM PDT Ever since I can remember my dad drank a lot every single night. I thought it was normal until I started going to my friends houses and saw that their parents didn’t drink. I asked my friends about it and they said their parents would only have a few drinks a month. My mom usually has 2-3 glasses of wine a night, and my dad has many glasses of bourbon or rum or gin (at least 4 or 5 a night). It doesn’t effect his daily life. He has a very stable job as a surgeon and makes time for me, my siblings, and my mom. He gets home around dinner time, but sometimes a lot later if he’s had a busy day. Then we eat, then he watches tv and drinks until he falls asleep on the couch. Then he’s fine the next morning. I asked him about it once and he told me that he has to turn his brain off at night because it’s the only way he can sleep. I know my parents drink more than normal and that it could impact their health, but I’ve told them this before but they said it’s fine since they still function fine. Does it really matter that they drink a lot if they’re healthy and high functioning? Question: My parents never eat healthy and it’s affecting my anxiety? :(? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 09:20 PM PDT I’m a 13 year old girl and 90 pounds. My dad always thinks I never eat enough so he always pokes fun at me and stares at me while I eat dinner and it makes me really nervous. My parents get fast food at least twice a week and it makes me nervous, idk why. I have OCD so I can’t stop thinking that we’re all going to die or get a disease. My dad doesn’t help, he always comments On how fat he is and that he is going to get diabetes/have a heart attack and DIE! It makes me really nervous but he never seems to care. I don’t want him or me to die 🙁 I’m really scared. I’m the only one in my family who seems to care about being healthy, every time I try to bring this subject up, my mom will tell me to stop because I might hurt spmeone’s Feelings! She doesn’t get it makes me nervous when they pig out. :/ How do I help bring up this topic? I love to cook and I can make stuff for them but I don’t really know what to buy.. can u help me? So basically: I’m asking -how to bring up that my dad poking fun at me and saying he’s gonna die makes me nervous -how to bring up that constantly eating fast food makes me nervous -what ingredients can I buy to cook meals for my family. Question: What can I do to not drive myself crazy? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 08:24 PM PDT I’m home from college and i have too much free time i can’t find a job I don’t talk to my high school friends anymore my college friends lives far away My family at home annoys me I’m so use to being on my own and i can’t drive to go places all my siblings have jobs and families I’m the only one in this house and it drives me crazy I’m tired of reading books and watching tv and sleeping Question: What do I do if my boyfriend has to drive home with his drunk father? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 07:55 PM PDT They are at his grandfather s house. He can t drive yet himself and his father is drunk and won t let them just stay there for the night and insists on driving home. I told my bf to just fall asleep in the house so it forces his dad to stay but he said his dad will just wake him up anyway and drag him to the car. His grandfather and all other adults in the house are drunk and apparently don t have enough common sense when drunk to talk his dad out of it. I m freaking out because lot s of people get killed in drunk driving accident. I would be a bit more okay if it was a 5 minute drive back to his dad s house but is 35 minutes away and that can t be walked, at night at least. This isn t right at all and I don t know what tod do… Question: Why is my life so hard? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 07:08 PM PDT I’m struggling in the nursing program and I feel like I will fail. I always feel ugly and I want plastic surgery but don’t have enough money. My mom is really mean to me and always compares me to my sister. Who’s prettier and finished uni already. I always feel like my boyfriend will cheat on me because he looks way better and is way smarter than I am. Question: I’m really suffering from this depression. I can’t live anymore? Posted: 09 Jun 2018 07:06 PM PDT I’m being EXTREMELY serious. This is NOT a joke. I sincerely want to die right now. 22 years is more than enough years to live. I want to be dead. I want someone or something to just viciously kill me. Lately, I’ve been really suffering from depression. It goes on and off, but the depression frequently comes and when it comes, it’s really bad. I feel absolutely worthless, meaningless and I feel like I have no purpose in life. I don’t hate God, but I’m VERY Angry with Him. I feel like he favours some people and wants people to have success and then wants people to fail and God wants me to fail and be unhappy. Recently, I’ve been EXTREMELY jealous of Madonna. I feel like if I can’t be Madonna, then there is no point of living to me. If Madonna dies, then it would be a globally big deal, but if I die, no one would give 2 **